Jesus said if you want to find your life you must first loose it .Losing anything fills us with anxiety we do everything within our power to attain control. Losing ourselves is counter intuitive because everyone is so intent on finding themselves . But only in the assent can real life in Christ be found. only In the downward is the upward, only in submission is the admission granted to live in the abundant.
Matt 16v25 For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.